Going through an FTM surgery is a transition for everyone in the family, but especially your loved one having the procedure. Offering your love and support is critical to ensure a smooth transition and to maintaining a healthy and happy mental state. Here are a few ways you can help.
Now more than ever they need to know they are being supported emotionally and spiritually. Offer to start a support team or, if your family is religious, start a prayer group by asking people to pray according to their faith.
Keep in mind they need your support, but they may also need space to be alone and process these changes. Balance is key and they may not know how to ask for help. Simply ensure they know you’re available to talk whenever needed so they’re comfortable approaching you any time.
Refrain from asking about their surgery results. They may grow tired of discussing the details, but will likely open up if they’re willing.
When they return home from surgery, make sure to check on them and offer to help in any way you can. They’ll appreciate the thought of you taking the time to call or visit as it helps reduce feelings of isolation as they recover.
Consider providing a home-cooked meal, but check first to see what they feel like eating or if they have food allergies. They may have a decreased appetite post surgery and should avoid certain foods that are high in sugar, as well as alcohol.
As they recover, basic day-to-day tasks will still need to be done. Offer to run errands for them like stocking up on groceries, picking up books at the library, or walking their dog.
Consideration of Their Needs
It’s important to be attentive to their needs during this transitional process. Is there a book they’ve always wanted to read or a movie they’ve always wanted to see? Pick up a copy and deliver it to them! Anything you can do to keep them entertained and happy while they recover will be a welcomed addition to their day.
Avoid visiting if you’re sick and wash your hands before entering their home. Consider bringing a bottle of hand sanitizer to place near the door for guests to use as a nice gesture.
With your help and support, your loved one can recover faster and return stronger from FTM surgery by supporting them emotionally, helping with day-to-day tasks, and being in tune with their needs.