Coming out as trans is a big step, but a very important one that leads to you finally being able to live as your true self. Whether you are looking to follow up your coming out with top surgery or are still learning about your authentic self, here are tips to help you come out as trans to the people you love:
Make connections with likeminded people
Before coming out as trans, make connections online or in person and speak to others who have done the same. Ask them how they came out and if they can offer any advice.
Be prepared to answer questions
What is top surgery? What should I call you? Are you a boy or a girl? What is gender? These are all questions you might get asked when you come out as trans. It’s important to note that you don’t have to respond to all of these questions. You can also point your family and friends towards websites for trans allies where they can learn about what you’re going through and how you coming out as trans is a good thing. Also, be patient. Elderly family members or people who come from very religious backgrounds may have trouble understanding exactly what being trans means. So, take your time and explain that this is not a lifestyle choice but the way you were born.
Decide if you want an audience or one-on-one time
Some people choose to come out to their entire family at once, while others tell people individually. The only thing to keep in mind is that if you have a family member or friend who is prone to gossip, they may reveal your news before you get the chance to. In that case, make sure that person is told last. Whether you tell everyone at once or do it one-on-one remember that this is your news, and you need to do what is most comfortable for you.
Talk to your doctor
If you’re considering having top surgery, talk to your doctor first. Your general practitioner can recommend a surgeon they trust to perform your procedure. Your doctor can also discuss hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and prescribe testosterone. Furthermore, your GP can refer you to a therapist if you need someone to talk to, offer their unbiased opinion of what you’re going through and help you create a coming out strategy.
Coming out at trans, whether you plan on having top surgery or not, is all about you. Before you come out to your family and friends, you must come out to yourself. Self-acceptance is key when it comes to coming out as trans because the more confident and comfortable you are with yourself, the easier time your family and friends will have with your great news. Remember that coming out as trans is great news because you can finally breathe easy. Hopefully, your family and friends will understand that you’re still you, you’re just belatedly getting to live as your true self.